I want the best for my wife and family and instead of rolling around in the mire of negativity always finding fault and taking a perpetual negative view
My former church does that. They always present everything but themselves as bad.
People outside the church are said to all be selfish, rude, ignorant, evil, unloving, immoral, dishonest.
Authorities are claimed to be lead by the Devil himself, all out to get members of the church. The church is claimed to be the no.1 target of all persecution.
The church claims (contrary to actual facts) that the world gets worse every day. They (falsely) claim disease and disasters, wars and violence, crime and all other evils are on the rise, leading to inescapable mayhem.
They never mention anything good about the world we live in or the world situation. And if they do, they'd portray it in a negative light, claiming mankind is fighting a lost battle anyway.
They also claim every human being is severely flawed, and can never hope to really fight off their own mistakes and flaws.
Members are always told they can't even trust themselves because they will lead themselves astray.
All the above negativity is repeated almost daily to the church members.
You are right. We don't need such negativity in our lives.
I choose to focus on the good in mankind, in the world we live in.
I choose to focus on the huge improvements we made.
Oh...take a guess what my former church is? I'm sure you can recognize them from the description.